You should buy that.
You should know I need you.
You should have promoted me.
You should notice my new shoes.
You should make me soup when I am sick.
I should be making more money by now.
I should be married with children.
I should go to that conference.
I should clean the house.
I should get up earlier.
Expectations = frustration, anger. Expectations can lead us down the garden path.
Separate wants from shoulds. Really, who owes you? Society, a corporation, your parents, your partner, your children, yourself?
We all want. Wanting is good. Let it motivate you.
Should on the other hand is a story we tell ourselves. Should is believing that our version is the true and righteous one. That only we count, only our story is real.
Want. It is okay to want. However, let go when your want does not become reality.